20 December 2010

Everything is Changing... Part 1

To summarize the next 2 weeks... we are moving to a new house 90 minutes away... I am moving into a new work place (same school)... Christine is moving 400 rabbits and constructing a new home for them... the boys are moving to a new schools... Joan and Diana are also going to a new school... and the maybe the biggest change by far is that Joseline is moving into her own house...



It feels like everything is changing... or as our friend puts it "we carry on like a normal family but every once in a while we go into hyper-drive"

They are all great changes but each comes with a bit of sadness...

Joseline is moving out for all the right reasons... but still we are all sad...

I often have been outspoken about the dangers of Americans and Ugandans calling each other by family names... mom, dad, sister, brother, daughter, son... often it ends up with a ridiculous request for finance and someone feeling hurt and used... so I never encourage the practice of adopting these names... especially in the early stages of the relationship...

But I can truly say I feel like a parent that is sending off an adult child into the world... We are incredibly proud of Joseline and the beautiful woman of God she has become...

She came to us 4.5 years ago with nothing and we have often been complimented by Ugandans for all we have done for her... but the truth is that everything we gave she gave back even more... she has been a third parent since our boys were babies... protecting them, caring for them, loving them and teaching them about God....

She has been a guide to Christine and I... teaching us manners and customs... explaining culture blunders and showing us grace time and time again as we figured out our way in Uganda... all while never letting us out of the house with the wrong outfit on or unpolished shoes...

I think I first realized she was truly part of our family when I started crying the first day she came to work at GBI... I had only ever felt that proud of Christine and the boys... but when it happened again at her graduation and I sat in the chair reserved for her father... I knew she would always be part of our family...

The good news for us is that we can see her new house from our new house... and we still have plans for Saturday morning pancakes and Wednesday night Mac-n-chesse with the boys... but at the same time we are sad... we our sending out our daughter into the world and a part of us wishes she could just stay with us forever...

2 comments:

Kelly said...

Joseline is wearing jeans??!!

marcie said...

What a sweet post!